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Child Support

CraigL
Here since: Dec 20, 2006
Male, 49
Service Technician/Locksmith
Columbia Heights, Minnesota, USA
Languages: English

I like to do volunteer work and help with children that lack basic needs.  I love children, but have none of my own.  I have helped out several single parent familes around the holidays for the past few years.  I've found that some families need ongoing help all year and not just at the holiday season.  I have been a public school employee for 22 years, and serve on a local church board.  I prefer to help someone directly without going through an organization.  I've done volunteer work before for organizations and was surprised at how much of the donated funding was spent on administrative expenses, and how little went to the recipients.   I really like the concept of Aidpage. 

ruthie
Here since: Nov 24, 2006
Female, 23
unemployed
binghamton, New York, USA
Languages: english
Lisa1989
Here since: Nov 24, 2006
Female, 38
Special education
Columbia, South Carolina, USA

Hello all those within the aidpage world.  I originally started this website with hopes of getting help for Christmas.  Christmas went great.  I did not receive any help but managed to come up with some ideas of my own, which included working heavy hours at my second job to help. 

 My children are all teenagers 14, 16, and 17.   At the time of our unexpected abandonment by their father my children were 6, 8 and 9.  It has been a very long, hard road.  The courts are very challenging and expensive when it comes to collecting child support.  To my surprise I was informed that temporary assistance was not an option since the child support that I do not get is considered income since it is court ordered.  Therefore, according to the state, I make too much money.  Would'nt that be nice.....This is a very messed up system.  But, I can hold my head up high knowing that I managed to keep a roof over their heads and food in their stomachs.  We are definitely not living on easy street.  Teenagers are much more expensive.  Once they are legal to drive the insurance for an auto triples.   I am now going to school full time as well as working 2 jobs.  This can be challenging but it works.  Any extras are always a blessing. 

I would like to take steps to change the way that the help is processed within my state anyway.  I am assuming they are the same all over.  If anyone has any ideas please respond.  Our kids deserve the right to a happy life with all the things they deserve and would have with two responsible parents.

christine531
Here since: Nov 14, 2007
Female, 22
student
Languages: english
i need my child support

I just need to be able to get my child support that is owed to me.  I supposedly make too much money for the state or any reduced rate legal programs to help me, but I have 4 children to support and I don't have the ability to pay a big retainer fee.  I am at my wits end. My ex-husband owes me over $30,000 in back support and he runs around care free all the time while I have to suffer.  I don't know what to do.  I can't even afford to buy my kids coats and mittens this year.  Everything is just closing in so fast.  I feel hopeless.

Don't get me wrong, I am not trying to get a handout, just some kind of help so I know what to do...

braves31
Here since: Sep 18, 2007
Male, 38
manager
cass lake, Minnesota, USA
Languages: english
I am the guy who will stand in line last to eat so as to make sure everyone else won't be hungry
I am the guy who will stop to make sure you're alright if your car is broken down on the highway
I am the guy who will try to fix your car and ask for nothing in return. Even in blistering cold wheather
I am the guy who will shovel you out by hand after a big winter storm if you're unable to do it yourself
I am the guy who will drive you to the place you need to be in an emergency cause you don't have a car
I am the guy who will go hundereds of miles out of my way to get you and your kids home safe
I am the guy who will move you into another place because you have no help and leave before you can pay me
I am the guy who will dive off a high bridge to save your daughter after she fell over the rail
I am the guy who will push you and your kids 9 blocks to the gas pump cause you didn't have a gas can
I am the guy who will help you and your grandparent, who is in a wheelchair, get over a small obstacle
I am the guy who will mow your lawn for free because I can see you are barely getting around now
I am the guy who will put myself in harms way when a dog attacks you and your  children. Just so you're  safe
In my lifetime these are but a few of things I have cared to do while I was given this life. I guess its my way of paying back the prayers. Help his children whenever I can.
I guess if you want to know about someone their deeds are a good place to start. If our paths should ever cross may you be in good health.Thanks for getting to know a little about me.


Jen80085
Here since: Jan 11, 2008
Female, 26
Student/Stay-at-Home-Mom
Languages: English
I'm a working single mom in need of some help.

I'm a single mom of two boys who are 5 and 2.  I work full time as a marketing assistant but recieve no child support from their father.  I recently had to move out of my two bedroom apartment into my sister's one bedroom apartment.  Even though I no longer have to pay rent, I've gotten so far behind on bills that it's looking near impossible to get on my feet again any time soon.  I'm not looking for a hand out just a lift up.  I work very hard to take care of my boys.  Things have become so difficult lately that I'm having a hard time putting gas in my car and buying groceries.

I graduated with my Associates Degree in Political Science and want to continue schooling as soon as I have my financial situation back under control.  I hope that someone out there will appreciate my efforts and hard work.

Thank you so much for your consideration and time. 

Munchie1976
Here since: Aug 31, 2006
Female, 27
Montville, Connecticut, USA
Languages: English

I am a twenty six year old single mother of three children ages 10, 8 and 5. I am divorced from a very abusive man. I worked for the last two years at a company that builds submarines here in Connecticut. Unfortunately, the company is losing work and a month ago I was laid off from my job along with over 500 others. My oldest daughters father does not pay me any child support whatsoever. My other childrens father does but only when he wants to. I am currently taking classes to become a entry-level paralegal since the carrer I tried to establish at Electric Boat went up in flames.

LucyLocket has empty pockets

I am the single mother of three truly delightful teenagers. I have been divorced for five years, and am presently receiving no support from my ex-husband. After I divorced him, he moved to another state and was subsequently convicted of a heinous criminal act, for which he is now imprisoned.  They don't collect child support from inmates and I am not eligible for any kind of assistance. I have been trying very hard to manage on my own, with some help now and then from family and friends; but earlier this year I was stricken with an illness that took a bite out of my budget, and then I was hit at work with a freeze on overtime. I depend on that overtime to make ends meet as my straight pay is inadeqate to live on. Over the past four months I've been unable to earn any of the overtime that I need to maintain my household and my finances have reached a point of desperation now. I've tried to earn extra income by bidding on freelance work through a reputable agency, but have been unsuccessful in securing any viable contracts. Right now I am behind on my rent, and while the couple who owns my house are very kind and considerate of my situation, they are rightfully losing patience and I understand that they need their money very badly. I have been blessed to have this home to live in with my children and I don't want to lose it. I work very hard, and I strive to do the best I can, but I'm truly in such a deep financial hole that I can't make my current rent payment, much less catch up the amount I am behind. I'm confident that overtime will resume eventually, but that may not be for a few more weeks. Right now I have hardly any food in the house, my power bill is due in three more days and I need immediate help. I am willing to return to this site later, when my finances are more solvent, and help others - but today, will someone please help me? I need at least seven hundred dollars to make my rent and power bill payment. I have about two hundred at my disposal, but that will put me into overdraft at the bank. Is there someone out there with a big heart who can see my family through this difficult time? Thank you for taking the time to read my request.

JaneY
Here since: Dec 19, 2007
Female, 31
MOM
Muskegon, MI
Languages: English
cattiva
Here since: Sep 15, 2006
Female, 42
Fremont, California, USA
Languages: English

I am a single mom aged 41. i'd like to try to buy a house for my very small family. i want to give my daughter some stability. however. i cannot afford it, because i have an overwhelming school debt hanging over my head. any tips or suggestions on how to pay it back or have some of it forgiven would be most appreciated.

also, the father of my baby will not get a job and pay his support to her. it is causing quite a lot of strain on my finances also...

any help would be paid forward as soon as possible in any way i can.

thanks/

cattiva

Big Katt
Here since: May 9, 2008
Female, 20
Chilton, Texas
Languages: English

Hey  !! My name is Crystal Coleman I am 20 yrs old and I have two twin boys that are Five months old and their names are Trevor & Leland . They are my Life. . To start off. Evey since I was little I was always in a family that did drugs and stayed in trouble I never knew my mom very well because she was in and out of jail, and I finally met my real dad when I turned 18YRS.I grew up with two brothers one is in jail now and has been in jail since he was 16. My little brother in in high school now and it is his senior year. When i was little i was sexual molested by my Uncle.. I felt that i could not tell anyone but when i did i told my Grandparents because they were the one we called mom and dad . When i told them they didnt belive me so the sent me off to live with my aunt here in Texas.. When i moved here i was treated like crap i had to go to school, cook dinner , wash dishes , wash clothes, clean my aunts room and rub her feet in the middle of a a school night . Her thought on school was that it came after what she wanted me to do for her! I belived in school first .. Anyways I finally ran away from her house at the age of 17 , from their i lived from house to house, and went to school. Thats when i met my husband , I fell in love i thought he was the real thing so we got married Oct 28, 2006 , but little did i know that when I said i do i would be put threw Physicaly and Emotional abuse. ( I got married at 18) I just put up with the abuse because i had no family to run to ... When i got married i was still in High School my husband didnt want me to go to school because he thought i would flirt with the boys , and he didnt want me to go on any school trips for all the same reasons.. Well thats when it all strarted the first time he just punched me in the face once and called me many names but I belived that he loved me so I didnt want to leave him.. But i did and when I had no were to turn to or no one to turn to I went back to him ... and the abuse got worse i had just had my gawbladder taken out when he decided to beat me the second time i was on the couch he decided that he wanted me to go to bed with him and i told him i was not ready for bed that i would be in the room in a min , well he didnt like that he followed me to the bath room and beat me in the shower , when he was beating me I went into an asthma attack and and refused to give me my medication. I left him that time for the second time. But as you might know already i went back because i felt in love and i felt that I couldn't live with out him. The third time he beat me he stopped in the middle of the high way and was yelling at me i told him to get out and let me drive because he was driving crazy because a EMS worker waved at me , when he got out of his little blue GMC truck i slidded over to the drivers side and as i was reaching for the door my husband grabed the door and slamed my head and arm in it many times and left me on the side of the road . This time i was determined i was not going back to him my aunt let me move in and while i was at school she also let him move in felt traped so i was with him again.. The Last time he beat me i was pregnate My friend was going to throw a graduation party for me because i had grauated well i was maken glasses for my party that said Senior Class Of 2007 and in the middle of maken a glass my husband asked me a question I didnt understand him so i asked him what he said and he started beating me, little did i know i was pregnant he held me in a conner and beat me and when i tryied to call the cops he took the phone and beat me more and the tore the house phone out of the wall and called his step mom and told her not to let me use the phone... I got out and when i did i went to the hospital and i found out i was pregnant 2 weeks later i was so excited but when i went to the hospital i found out that i was suspost to have triplets but when my husband beat me i lost a child. I was so upset with him, i couldnt figure out why he would beat me so much and just think everything was ok. I stayed away from my husband for 4 months and then i decided i was going to give him one more chance and this time it was not for me it was for the kids.. Well i didnt go threw physical abuse this time it was all emotional abuse this last time and i ended up having my babys earily because of all of stress and stuff he made me do , When i had the kids i thought it would change my kids lived in the hospital for 35 days after they were born i never got to touch my babys when they were born just a little while after they were in the hospital. They had so many cords on them because i had them 2 months earily. I went everyday to see my babys and my husband started getting jelious so i told him he better fix his act because if he didnt that the kids and i was leavin because we didnt have to put up with his crap. When the babys got out it was getting worse he didnt want me to have anything to do with my kids, and remember me telling you that my kids are my world well my kids gave me the strength to leave him for good , I went to a Family Abuse Center for a week now im living with a friend and i am getting a divorce. Every now and then I think mabey I should just go back because it might be easyier to just live with him because I have no car , no money and no house, but you know what  I refuse to go back to him when im breaking down and thinking about going back I listen to music . I Call this a Lesson Learned, and hold my two wonderful boys . Because it was a lesson Learned . I learned the hard way , but alway turn to god even when no one eles is their he is!! God knows what i went threw and he will take care of it at the end!!

Gaurdian
Here since: Nov 25, 2005
Male, 28
Behavioral Health Technition
Employed-Private Company
Phoenix, Arizona, USA
Languages: English
I met my ex-wife while homeless.  Together we worked our way off the streets and into an apartment.  After a year in Denver we moved to Phoenix with the hope of starting a family.  Soon we found ourselves in school and I had an amazing job assistant teaching in a small private school for autistic children.  After we graduated from our first degree, AS in Criminal Justice Administration, my wife was convicted of fraud.  Although I assure people she was innocent and give plenty of proof to her innocents, my views are indeed biased.  What can I say, I still care about her.  Once she was placed in jail we lost our three bedroom house and I was forced to sign a lease on a studio apartment.  After a time we grew apart and when she was released we separated and are seeking divorce, which I’ am sure I will pay for not that I regret it, my only concern now is providing for my 7 month old daughter and ensuring I will be able to maintain visitation with my child.  I’ am currently working in a group home for severely mentally ill clients whom have been just released from the state hospital.  I enjoy this field, however I miss teaching even more.  I have my CJA degree which qualifies me for social work.  Yet I still need a BA to earn enough money to support my child independent of her mother.  Assistance for food and insurance has been temporarily confirmed for the two of them, but time is short and my daughter could have a much healthier life if I could take her full time and relieve the burden on my ex-wife.  I have the means to support a one bedroom apartment with childcare and health care as long as I can find a way over this seemingly impossible wall.  Nothing has been more frustrating than being able to provide for my child and finding the means is scarcely within reach.  The hardest part for me has been seeing the conditions in which my daughter lives five days a week knowing she can have better if only I could share custody and have her with me 50% of the time.  My only down fall is this would require a one bedroom apartment and I can afford only a studio at this time.  I have worked out a budget and plan for this to work for both the mother and myself while providing a stable environment for my daughter.  The only downfall to this is the extra three to four hundred dollars a month which I do not have and still maintain the current support to my daughter.  My goal is to help provide for my daughter, not deprive her of a loving mother.  I fear the possibility of state benifits running out and my wife inadvertently violating her parole due to lack of work.  I would be powerless against the state taking custody of my child.  I would fight for her tooth and nail, but I would rather maintain a stable life for her.  My ex wife and I are both full time students and I have worked with special needs and at risk children all my life (as short as it has been).  I have the ability to do this as well as the means with job offers with benefits.  The only thing missing is a financial resorce which would only have to last for six months max.    
Linda33
Here since: Jun 3, 2007
38
Singel Father providing Safe Enviroment

I’ am a recently separated father with full time employment and school.  I make enough to cover my bills, but have no insurance due to the high cost as well as I make just enough to not be eligible for state assistance.  My financial aid covers my classes whoever there is enough left over to cover only two months of child support (7 month old daughter lives with mother).  Child care for my ex-wife is limited and financial assistance was denied due to a felony conviction prior to birth.  I pay child support as well take her for the two days a week I can make it to her, however my ex is requesting back child support ($200) plus my regular payment as well.  I have been seeking assistance to pay off medical bills, vehicle insurance, utility bills, or even rent, anything to get enough far enough ahead to pay a few weeks of child care as well as enable me to afford to have health insurance.  I have been ineligible for state benefits although I need (minimal) assistance to accomplish these few simple tasks.  I have looked for other jobs in my field and I’ am with the highest paying company right now at my level.  Any information and or references will be greatly appreciated.  I have worked my way off the streets from six years ago and I have this one small hump which is seemingly impossible.  Thank you for your time. 

need_support86
Here since: Mar 11, 2008
Female, 21
working
SAVANNAH, ga
Languages: english

hi my name is Francesca Johnson and i just got my 1st apartment. i am a single partent with 2 kids and 1 on the way. i got laid off my job that i had for 8 months. nobody wants to higher me because i am pregnant. i have no money to pay my bills and i just moved in my new place 2 months ago. please help me.

child support

Ok My spouse has been ordered to pay 65,000 in child support arrearage for a child which is most likely not his and current support of 535 per month. The easiest thing is to have a dna test right..... wrong the child is 15 yrs old and having that test could potentially bastardize her (against the law) Any way the court is trying to take 1200 per month out of our income of 1640........... there is nothing left for us to live on. We are a family of 5 been married 10 years and this all happend last year. There are 2 children involved, the oldest is his and he has paid all along for her. The mother took the children when the oldes was 2 and youngest not born and left. Only resurfaces when she wants money. He has not seen the girls but a handfull of times in 14 years! What do we do how can we survive?

smom3
Here since: Apr 22, 2008
srenae
Here since: Jul 7, 2008
Female, 38
Unemplyed
New Caney, Texas
Languages: English

I am 39 years old with a beautiful 4 year old son. I have lived in an abusive marriage for 10 years.  I do not know why I stayed.  I did leave a couple of times but stupid me... I let my husband smoothly sweet-talk me into coming back. I feel like an idiot for not leaving a long time ago.  My father was an abusive alcoholic as well...I guess sometimes the apple doesn't fall far from the tree. I left him in February 2007 again and did proceed with a divorce. Of course...like the fool that I am...I let him talk me into coming back again.  I put the divorce on hold in November 2007.

My husband is an abusive, blackout alcoholic.  I can not even begin to describe the humiliation and abuse I have put up with.  He even got my 4 year old son in his lap and had him call me whore, fat bitch, crazy, and stupid. I lost my job February 2008.  Of course some of my absences were due to my husband. In March 2008 and April 2008 he was put in jail for Public Intoxication, arrested at our apartment.  In April 2008 he had 4 wrecks, getting out of DUI's for all of them!! At the beginning of May 2008 he was arrested for Public Intoxication once again.  I left him and me and my son moved into my mother's house.  There is not a lot of room at her house. Our "room" is a section behind the living room sofa with a futon and a wardrobe closet from Wal-Mart. I am receiving unemployment and have been ACTIVELY looking for a job since February.  As you know unemployment does not last forever and I might get $50.00 here and there from my husband. I can not give my mother the money she deserves for rent, the electric bill, water bill etc.  I feel so bad about this.

On May 25, 2008 my husband had a head on collision with a barrier to an entrance ramp on the highway.  It is a wonder that he survived without a scratch. However, if my son had been in the car he most likely would have been killed or severely injured. He actually got arrested this time for DUI.  This DUI, being his third makes it a felony in Texas.  He went to jail for 5 days until his family could find a bail bondsman that would post his bail.  He is awaiting a trial date.  I hope and pray that he is sentenced to some kind of rehab sentance or does some time so that maybe he can think about what he needs to do.

I talked to the lawyer I had put the divorce on hold with.  Unfortunately because I want full custody with supervised visits we basically have to start from the beginning again.  I do not have the money for the retainer fee.  I really do like this lawyer and he knows the judge and court we would go to very well.  I need help to proceed with this divorce.  I am afraid of trying to get a legal aid lawyer.  This man knows my husband and will go all out.  Please, anyone out there that has been in my position, help me.  I am not a person who likes to beg or live off of governmrnt assistance. I am at the point that I just do not know what to do.  What do I do?

morris
Here since: Feb 8, 2008
BRYNNAZMOMMY
Here since: Apr 9, 2008
Female, 28
LOOKING FOR 1.......
MARINA DEL REY, CA
Languages: ENGLISH

I HAVE STRUGGLED THE LAST TWO YEARS HARDER THAN EVER. WORKED TWO FULL TIME JOBS;MANAGING ALL DAY & BARTENDING ALL NIGHT, SO THAT I COULD REPAY A DEBT MY HUSBAND LEFT ON  ME. WORKED MYSELF INTO THE GROUND SO THAT MY 4 YEAR OLD COULD HAVE A NICE HOME, AND FOOD, AND TOYS,AND A HAPPY UP BRINGING, & NOT SEE OR FEEL THE HARDSHIPS THAT I'VE BEEN FACING. SO MANY TIMES I WANTED TO GIVE UP.I FELT LIKE SUCH A FAILURE. NEVER BEING ABLE TO SPEND ANY REAL TIME WITH MY PRECIOUS LIL GIRL. HER ALWAYS HUNGRY FOR MY ATTENTION. IT BROKE MY HEART. I WAS SO HAPPY WHEN SHE WAS BORN, THOUGHT HOW WONDERFUL MY LIFE HAD BECOME. MY WORLD FEEL OUT FROM UNDER ME THOUGH IN 2006, WHEN MY HUSBAND WAS ARRESTED AND I WAS TOLD BY OFFICERS THAT MY HUSBAND AND LOVING FATHER, WHO I HAD BEEN WITH FOR 4 YEARS ;WAS A FUGITIVE AND WAS LIVING WITH AN ALIAS NAME.    HE  OWED SO MUCH MONEY TOO. TO PEOPLE I HOPE I NEVER RUN ACROSS AGAIN....I'VE MADE IT THIS FAR. I JUST FINISHED PAYING THESE PEOPLE OFF IN MARCH.....I PRAISE MY LORD THAT THIS BURDEN IS LIFTED, BUT NOW STRUGGLE WITH HAVING JUST LOST MY JOB, IN SEQUINCE I HAD TO GIVE UP MY HOME AND ASK MY MOTHER TO LET MY DAUGHTER AND I SLEEP ON HER FLOOR, TILL I CAN GET BACK ON MY FEET. I FEEL LIKE SUCH A FAILURE AGAIN. IM TRYING TO BE POSITIVE, AND WORK THE LAWS OF ATTRACTION INTO MY LIFE, AND GET BACK ON TRACK,AND START LIVING , INSTEAD OF EXISTING, BUT I FEEL SO BROKEN..........

msjanie
Here since: Feb 11, 2008
Female, 28
currently unemployed
Kalamazoo, Michigan
Languages: english

Hi , My name is Holly Culver. I am a single mother of two young boys ages 11 and 9. Great kids, they are my life. Right now I am in diar straights. I just quit my job of seven years two days ago. If you knew my boss , you would understand. I dont know as of yet if I am happy or regretful. I know it felt amazing not having to get up and go to the same crap I have dealt with for the last seven years!  I worked for a very small catering company. So small in fact , I was their only full time staff! I was considered contract Hire , therefore , I was responsible for my own taxes and insurance. As you can imagine , being a single mom , I could barely afford my taxes , let alone have to pay for my own insurance. I had the luxury of driving a company car, but the verbal abuse and lack of respect on my bosses behalf become so bad that I could justify staying with the company any longer. I unfortunately had to give back the car, even though when I was hired , I was told $100.00 a week was being put towards the purchase of the vehicle!  So now, not only am I jobless, I am carless. I have been begging rides for the last two days just to get my boys to school. In fact , we had to take the city bus yesterday! It took a total of four bus transfers to get them to school , and me back home!  I am not to proud to do anything if it has to be done, it's just difficult to work around all of these bumps in the road , if you know what I mean. I guess the saying, "You don't know what you have til it's gone"  really holds true. Yet , I had to do what I had to do !  After seven years, I just couldn't take the verbal abuse anymore, regardless of the hardships I was going to have to face! I need as much help as I can possible get right now. I am not looking for a hand out , Just and extra hand. I am more than willing to pay anyone back for help that they may be able give! I have worked very hard to get where I am today, and I don't want to go backwards, I want to continue to move forward ! My children and I were homeless seven years ago when I started my job with the catering company. I needed money so badly then, I think that is why I allowed  my boss to continue treat me the way she did. I never wanted to say anything that may have jepordized my job. I guess everyone eventually cracks under pressure. My postition now is very shaky. The little bit of money I have in the bank will be completely gone as of friday!  I have rent , phone bill, and electric due , which is all of my money!  I need to find a job immediately, a car asap, and some help with my dental situation. I was born with several dental problems which are just now starting to really show themselves. I am in pain due to a condition I have with my jaw. I forget the name of it. I was diagnosed with all of these problems when I was a child. My father himself was a single parent to me and two younger siblings and could not afford to tend to my issues. So here I am as an adult , and I still can't afford the help I need!  It is very disheartening and sad to me that I can't take care of myself properly, let alone , my children!  I was born without six of my adult teeth , which has left me with huge gaps in my smile , and the teeth that I do have are not in the greatest shape. I want to try to get help with this before they tell me the only solution is dentures!  I am not even thirty yet, and to be honest with you , Dentures have been one of my biggest fears!  My dad used to joke with me as a kid, that it would be easier to just pull all of my teeth and get dentures!  He may have been joking with me , but I have carried that fear through my entire adult life!  If you can help me , I am willing to do exchange work or sign an agreement of repayment. Please email me if you can help with any of my situations , or know of someone who can , that I can contact myself. I would be greatful for life to anyone willing to help with any or all of my issues right now. I don't want to come across as desperate , but really, I am! Thank you for your time in reading this. I hope you are that special someone , who can find it in their heart to help me!  I hope to hear from someone soon. Sincerely ,

                                                                                  Ms. Holly and the Boys

MowWow
Here since: Jun 16, 2008
Female, 31
Admin Asst.
florida
Languages: english, spanish

I am not sure how to do this - you guess it - I'm a newbie!

Well, first off all I am a single parent of four awesome kids. My oldest is 13 yrs old, then I have twin boys who are 11 yrs old and my little one just turned 7 yrs old. I can't believe that coming this new school yr I will have three in middle school! I feel so old...

We have been struggling on and off for the past four yrs but have mangaged to surface and stay afloat. I married pretty young and I had the whole illusion that I would live happily ever after but that wasn't the case. After our 10 yr anniversary we decided to split and I found myself an apartment for myself and my kids. It wasn't until 2 yrs ago that things turned for the worst. My then astrange husband threaten me and tried to run us off the road and that was it. I was granted a permanant restraining order against him and I haven't seen him since but he sure has made my life a misery. I am constantly paranoid and looking over my shoulder. I live in fear that he will kidnap my kids. I have nightmares almost every night that he is trying to kill me so in some ways I think he has succeeded. I have yet to find an answer to my daily struggles (emotional ones). I have seen myself struggle with our daily expenses and my low income is no help...  The last time our electricity got shut off - I had to lie to the kids and say that the whole apartment complex was without power for some reason. We spent almost 30 hrs w/o power. It's amazing how much we depend on electricity and wouldn't you know it that my apartment is equipped with an electric stove... *sigh*

Well, I apologize for long entry but hopefully this will be a place where I can let out all my emotional stress day in and day out. 

Thank you for reading/hearing my post.

Michell
Here since: Sep 2, 2007
38
Divorce has left me broke/broken...
I have been divorced for several years now. I was "stuck" with all of the student loans ( even though I had scholarships for MY schooling ), all of the credit card and vehicle debt.  Half of my current income goes to child support ( which I gladly pay for my children ). I am a teacher and make @ $27,000 she is a surgical nurse and makes three times that. I take home less than $1000 a month. Needless to say, I cannot afford a home, car, expenses and all the debt for which I've been saddled.

I realize my plight is not as drastic as others.  Asking for help is humiliating and humbling but I'm at my wits end. I live in a tiny one bedroom apartment while my X lives in a very large 6 bedroom home on the "good" side of town.

Maybe this comes accross bitter or vengeful...and I suppose there is some of that in there...but more than anything I want to provide for my children. When I can't purchase Christmas or birthday presents it's time to put my pride aside.

I am not looking for a free pass. I've been paying for quite some time, but I just cannot get ahead of all of this.

In advance...thank you so much!
Child Support

I have been laid off from a few jobs in the past two years and wanted to get my child support cut bac by at least half of what I owe. I have been screwed by a roommate and had to move back in with my mother due to all of this. I am wanting to get my child support paid up either in full or half. I dont have the money for any lawyers or any kind of legal aid help whatsoever. I am in bad shape right now and have to move out of the state with my mother who has tried to help me with all of my financial matters. I dont know where else to turn and hope that someone will be able to help me get some of these payments for my child support. I was ordered to pay support when my first born arrived and she just turned seven years old and I haven't seen her since the day she was born. The mother does not contact me in regards to provide insurance and I just want to be a good father and get something paid in a decent amount. If you can please help I would appreciate it.

Being evicted with 2 kids and no where to go

I need some help I have exhausted all resources.

I had emergency surgery in August 2006 and was out of work for 2 weeks, at the same time my ex husband quit paying me the $800 a month child support he is ordered to pay.

I contacted the courts and the earliest they could get him to court was March 2007.

I have been giving mylandlord 95% of my paychecks to try to get it caught uo.

I have all but $429 paid for the previous months but now November rent is due.

Social Services and other agencies have helped me to get where I am now and cannot help me any more.

I have had no money for food so I have been doing with out so my kids could have what little I did have.

I have applied for a loan but since my ex husband messed up our credit I have been denied.

I need a $1,000.00 loan and fast

 

Is there anyone out there that can help me

I promise I can repay the loan in installments

I am desperate I have no where to go I will be homeless with my kids

anora08
Here since: Mar 29, 2008
Female, 35
Fulton, MS

I need help with finances. I have arthritis and lupus and am deaf and had to leave my job.I am a single mom supporting my daughter as well as my disabled mom and disabled sister and I get no child support. I have borrowed my friends and family to the max limits. I am behind on everything and desperately need money to pay my bills. Im 3 months behind on the house payment and have used every ounce of savings I had put away.  I have a paypal account (anoraonebay@yahoo.com ) donations can be sent to, anything will help and thanks in advance.

PS

I am in the process of trying to sell many items on ebay, so if you cant bring yourself to just make a donation, maybe I have something you want? Please check them out, every little dollar will help, heres the link http://search.ebay.com/_W0QQsassZanora_wolfe

PSS

Also, if you make a donation and want to see the bill you helped pay, just let me know and I will gladly share that info with you.

Thank you so much for your consideration,

 

 

UPDATE: I was thinking last nite I needed to be proactive in my own life. I feel like things are just "dead in the water", so to speak. I contacted Voc Rehab, who got me my hearing aids, cuz they said they would help me learn ASL (American Sign Language) too and were supposed to let me know something "soon"...well its been months and months, so I contacted them via email (its Sunday) but have gone one step further and contacted my local community college and enrolled in the ASL training program and I have found I qualify for financial aid and can get my courses free just based on my lack of income, so thats good news. Not so good news is its mid-session now, the courses I need are not offered over summer and that means I have to wait until fall term to get this moving....soooo again, not one to be discouraged, I have emailed the director of the program and asked her if there is anyway I can come "sit in" on any classes or some way to get private instruction so that I can do this sooner...like yesterday. So I am encouraged about this one thing in my life....      I was also thinking that if I go back to school, I still have all these crazy insane amount of credit card bills, medical bills, loans, etc who are knocking down my door....and in fact trying to kick me out of my door, since the house payment is 3 months behind so I checked with welfare....UGH I dunno where all those rumors and myths about folks sitting around "getting rich" off welfare came from....it may happen somewhere, but it aint happening in Mississippi thats for dang sure. On the TANF program, a needy person gets $110 for the first person and then $36 for the 2nd person and $24 for each additional person after that. So for myself and my daughter, we'd get a whopping $146 a month to live on....Im  very very discouraged on this point, because I was hoping that I could go back to school and finish my degree (ASL interpreting) and that would allow me to get a good job. BUT while Im in school full time, I was thinking maybe TANF would be enough to just "get by" and keep the bill collectors at bay until I was able to pay them myself....so much for that plan. Now Im at a loss for my next step.  I have a partial plan for school, but it does not help me keep myself out of jail for defaulting on these loans and it does not keep my utilities on or the house from being reposessed....

Any ideas, help, suggestions, loans, donations, thoughts & prayers, anything is appreciated

 

mekitty1
Here since: Mar 26, 2008
Female, 24
student/mom/caretaker/apprentice
Covina, CA
Languages: English

I am a single mom (well Im not single I have a bf but he's in another state, now so basically all I have is a little emotiional support, which is the only thing keeping me strong) I have 2 great little boys, one suffers from some mental health issues(like me) and the other has Asthma (also from me) Both their Fathers are crap. One more so then the other. I experienced a great deal of abuse from them. I am in and out of the court house constanly fighting for whats best for my kids. Umm anything else you want to know go ahead and ask I'll do my best to answer. Im from cali so, i'll post as many resources as possible for me.

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