Hello my name is Micki. Iam a single mother of two beautiful little boys, Braxton 8 yrs old & Aiden 3yrs old. A little over two yrs ago my son moved to NY with his father. I have court ordered visitation in the summer and on holidays. His father is going against the order and wont let my son come home. He hasn't been home in a year. This is killing us. Im under so much presure because my son made me promis that his little brother and I would move to Long sland N.Y. as soon as we could .There are no words to tell you what this has been like for my family, my three yr old starves himself for wks at a time when his brother left, and each time after he visits the same, and thats just the begaining of what we go through. It's been two yrs and we are no closer to moveing. I don't have the funds to move , don't know how to find a three bedroom home for my children and I there , not to mention finding a job there that will afford us to live. I can not afford legal councel at all, so I am unable to file comtemt charges against his father..... My son has some special needs, he has "CAPD" hearing difficulty, and "ADHD", also has an inoppreible "aracnoid cyst", in his brain that was descovered right befor he left to live with his father. I know nothing about my sons medical wellbeing now that he is there , I know nothing about his education now that he's there, and it was ordered that his father provide me with that info. His father never met "his" son untill he was almost three, and that was because we went to NY to make him meet him. ONLY after that did he imedietly file for custody of my son .We fought for over two yrs. untill I ran out of money, Im still paying that off. Please befor you assume I wasn't proven "unfit" , that law doesn't apply to Oklahoma. Just "best interest" = IE", who has more money. What I need is help someway to get there, (N.Y.) money, job, home. ASAP". Thank you for anything you can do. I'm not looking for a hand out, not looking for a new life , my sons needs me and we need him. What has happend is wrong and I can't let this go on till he is 18 . I will do anything to get back in my little boys life. If there is any thing I can do for you in return please don't hesitate to ask. P.S. I miss him so very much.....please, please help us!!!

I am in my early 50's and used to make 6 figures, but bad investments have put my few properties into foreclosure.  My business should make money, but hasn't - it's credit is excellent, though.  I need to either invest in my buisiness or get back into a high-tech field that was so good to me in my earlier days, but I have huge debts (mostly mortgages), lots of IRS $$ due.  I wish I could sell my real estate or get an investment of about $100K against 1/4 acre of industrial urban vacant land (it has no mortgage on it) so I can either (a) revamp my business or (b) refresh my career skills - depending on how my capital I have. 

Im not even sure what this site is for other than just having people out there who know what im going through. I have spent the last few years wondering if im going to be able to hang on. Im an adult survivor of child abuse and sexual abuse. For most of my life I have been able to maintain, but recently I feel like im comming apart. Im sure most of it is related to the fact that my life latley is so out of control. The economy is so bad right now that the stress level's have reached an all time high. I know im not the only one out here suffering, I just feel like I am.  I was diagnosed with Post Tramatic Stress Syndrome, re-occuring depression, Severe Panic and Anxiety. So with all this going on the lack of money isn't helping. I know what I need to do, and I want to be able to do it, I just cant. And I know what your thinking not with that attitude, but I used to have a great attitude, I just lost it somewhere down the road. My husband is Disabled with a bad Back and Knee, It makes it hard because we are trying to maintain a house and raise 3 kids on his disability pay and it just doesnt work.. I've tried everything. I have tried to work and tried to go to school but I just cant finish anything. I start out great and then fizzle. It gets so bad I get so over whelmed I cant continue I start getting panic attacks and then im done. If anyone can offer suggestions Im open. Anything.

until then Im still hanging in there.

To hell with WASHINGTON, yah I had to break some laws to get to and from work every morning another month and everything would have been paid off in full, screw thier randonm traffic stops! I HATE THIS COUNTRY! I was born here in the US so I cant be deported, but with such a bad traffic record I cannot leave either. I am deep in debt roughly 40 grand between student loans and traffic fines I cant pay because I havent been able to hold a damn job longer than a year since i graduated highschool, I tried college thought furthering my education would help my prospects that was total BS I lost my funding for school because of the huge bottleneck in the financial aid system.

That put me three months behind on my rent waiting two months into my 7th term in school for back financial aid. I had to leave school to work, and the only offers for the degree I managed to earn were non existent so I went ahead and started working for labor ready and all they pay is minimum wage which was barely enough to cover absolutely nothing.  I eventually found a driving job hauling scrap that payed decently enough and got complacent thinking I could start paying the already dillinquent loans off finally but lost that thanks to a DUI lets just say you figure out who your friends are when you are out celebrating your birthday, and you still wind up driving home on your own.  OK that ones my fault but hell.

 Here I thought in another month that if I paid the overdue fines as I tried getting my shit together after being homeless 3 times since college and twice since the DUI while attempting to comply with all the court orders  and finally landing another good job I cant keep because of this random traffic stop on monday, I AM FUCKED I guess I have to accept that. when some judge decides to throw me in jail becaue I cant pay my debts I'll accept that too and you all voted for it so you just have to accept housing and feeding a hardcore criminal like me

Dear Soulight,

I am in desperate need of some financial assistance to help me through this difficult time. The one thing that really bothers me is how my university of 4 years, has put me off from completing my Masters Program because I cannot afford to pay them $1,800.00 and because I am not working they have taken me off the program until I can pay this amount.  Although I feel it was not my fault I have no money to pay for a lawyer that can help me to fight this.  As it stands, my school loans from this univeristy is at 75,000.00, and I completed my bachelors with them in 2006.  My gpa stands with this university at 3.89, and they have no intentions of working with me to try and solve this situation.  They told me they cannot schedule me for classes because I am not working.  I feel discriminated from this university and hope that you can provide for me any organization that will help me to find financial assistance to gain some satisfaction towards this matter I face.  Presently, I am unemployed and am struggling to survive on a $422 a month income.  What type of individual grants are available to low income people like myself?  Please anything would help me.  

i am in grave danger of losing my apartment. due to judgement in divorce garnishments have left me unable to make rent for july. i desparately want to keep my place until lease is up and can find someplace less expensive.please help me

in october od 07 my wife asked for divorce about aweek after we had signed lease and put deposit on three bedroom apartment. i was asked to leave and had no money(closed bank acct) and no choice but to move into apartment. i figured i would at least have  aplace for my sons ages (5) & (2) to visit. it was a struggle to make it and would ve been fine until i rec'd final decree in the mail. her lawyer had altered our original agreement and took advantage of me( not having legal rep) i was at the mercy of the judge. my wife from the beginning stated she did not intend to takemy kids from me, but what she didnt say was that she would make it impossible for me to survive, therefore rendering me unable to care for them when they are with me or moreover even have place for them to come visit.Over the last 8mos my kids have come to love "Poppas house", how do explainto them if I get put on the street? they are everything to me, i cry each day they are not with me. i have promised hem as dads do that no matter what i will always be there for them. i feel like i heve failed them. 

Hello Mom Lost job,

I lost my job on June 12, 2008. Have been looking for work ever since. I have a child that was in college. The child was accepted into a a program at a university where you did your last year of high school and first year of college. Last year when the child went to this university we  did not get aid so it was left up to me paying out of pocket for my child education. I had a hnadle on it then it became to much. I worked three jobs trying to keep up but bills started to fall behind. I was trying my best to keep my child in the college. My child did two semester and had to come home. I realized that I can not offered the program anymore. My child  came back home and tried to go back to high school but came to find out she finished and no need to attend. My child graduated this June. I owe the college a balance of $2989.49 my child can not go back until the pervious balance is paid off. I almost lost my home trying to give my child the American dream of attending college. My child  got a job and help me save our home we are on a forbarance plan with our mortgage company and this is the last month for the payment. Now all my child friends are going away to college in August and my child does not know where her future lies because she can't go back because of a previous bill. I feel like I have detroyed my childs life. If my child goes back goes back she will receive aid and she can take out loans because she is of age to sign contracts. The plan was to pay off the blance this summer so she can go back. But now I am unemployed. I gave up two part time jobs two months ago when things started to fall back in order. I got this great job at the begining of the year which was a great increase in salary and to only be laid off in six months. Now my child feels like she is lost and have no future. If there is someone out there that can make a denotation to her university so she can get her life back it will be really apperciated. I just want to see my child live a dream. I am not asking for funds to come to me but go directly to the university. I am putting this story out there. I am a single mother trying to give my child a better life. She is smart and has a chance to have a bright future. I am down on my luck and family can't help because my parents are retired and live on a fixed income. I hope someone can help. My lossing my job is the least of my worries. I just need my child to get her college life back. I will find another job I faith in the lord that that is coming any day now. I just need my child to get here life back so she won't feel like such a failure because she is not. Her mother failed her. I need to help her. I hope someone can help.

Thanks

Mon Lost Job

 Am a single father of one, I have been unable to work due to lack of childcare for the summer, am currently unable to qualify for food stamps. And am unable to get to a soup kitchen. I just need groceries to cook.

I was injured on my job almost 1year and 4months now.I have an torn legiment in my leg.

I hired this attorney, and all she do is give me the run around.I seen 2 ortho for my leg, one is the company doctor and the other was my lawyer doctor, the one she picked. all said nothing is wrong with my leg. even though my mri states i have a torn legiment, but the doctor feels  i dont need surgery, i ask one doctor what about my pain, he says to take tylenol like it was a joke. the other doctor claims i was to old for the surgery..which im 42 years old. i had to wait almost 8 months before i was able to see an nurogist, and that was the one my lawyer picked, he says nothing is wrong with my leg...the thing is all he did was hit my knee with a tool and gave me a clean bill of health, now they kick me off worker comp. i called my lawyer for a slip saying i no longer get worker  comp. she got mad and yelled at me.. now im  doing job search because the job refused to take me back, but they rehab me to find jobs,but found none so far..i have children to take care of,but i have to try and work on my leg i know i cant stand for too long..what can i do besides medicating myself for pain? trying to find another lawyer to take over my case, or at least look at it...in may they wanted me to settle my case or come up with an amount...its not about the money, its about getting the proper medical treatment for my leg because my leg still hurts and at times i can hardly walk... i dont want to wake up years from  here and be crippled, thats my point... i think it a shame how lawyers and doctors work together trying to help each other...where is the justice for all...in united we stand is full of craft...in united we fall..

I dont know if anyone will read this but im at the end of my rope. it all started a year ago, i had a very good job as a salesman for a window company. the contruction came to a stop in our area of florida. so the company had a mass laoff and i was one of the unfortunate ones to loose my job. i ended up having to let my new truck go back and had to get a old beater so i could make it around. after no luck of finding work in tampa i decided to pack everything up and move to north carolina. i stayed with my sister and found a job 4 monthes after starting i ecieved a call from my mom in florida and was told that my son had been diagnosed with a blood platelet disorder so once again i packed up everything and moved back to florida so i could be with my son. in the midst of all this i got two tickets and without the money to pay them i had my liscence suspended well about a month ago i was driving back home from a part time job i found and got pulled over because of a blown brake light. i just knew i was going to jail but i actually got lucky for once and it was a very understanding officer. he still had to sight me  but i didnt have to take the trip to jail. just had my court hearing for driving on a suspended on tuesday where i plead guilty and the good judge gave me a 200 dollar court fine instead of jail. so now im struggleing i have one ticket paid and another 225 dollar ticket that needs paid to reinstate my lisence plus 200 court fine to stay out of jail as well as rent and all the utilitys plus all th doctor bills for my son that are piling up. and now after 2 years of seperation my wife has filed for divorce so now i have to figure out a way to get a lawyer so i dont loose parental rights of my son and belive she is using all my downfalls against me. ive never begged for anything in my life and everything ive ever had i worked very hard for. but now i need some help, anything would help so if you can find it in your heart to help i would be forever greatfull.

I am a mother of 2 children, I am also married to a great husband. We both work full time jobs. I thought we were doing fine, until I get a call from my son's father telling that he is suing me for full custody of my son. My son's father is abusive towards me, he has a history of drug use. I fear for my son if he gets ahold of him. I have talked to many lawyers and I just can't afford anything. I am just trying to get sole custody so he can't runaway with my son. Even that to get started is alot of money. His fathers thinks that I am a bad mother because my son is not in sports this season and that he will have to go to summer school to make it to the next grade. My son is a smart kid he just doesn't like to do the work. His father has no paid child support since my son was 2.  I let that slide because I did not want to go through all of this. We were doing fine for a while, He would see his son every other weekend, and then visit when he was out of school for a break. He would buy his son new clothes and shoes and anything else he could. I am not saying he is a bad father in that part. But he is abusive, punching him in the chest, telling him to man-up or be a man! Come on my son is only 8 years old. I am about sacrifice everything just to get some help from a lawyer. I tried legal aide, but according them my husband and I make too much money. We make just enough to pay the bills and have gas left over to go to work. I don't want to lose my son to him,

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I am often looking for support for my friends - many of whom are men who are recently or long time divorced and are struggling to support their kids.  Jobs may not pay much or they have been out of work for a while, or they may be suffering from some form of an addiction - alcoholism, etc.

I am also looking for support for kids who are in conflict - bullies and those that are bullied - trying to help them learn new ways to address their dipsutes by talking and mediating rather than resorting to violence.

I am looking for suppot for my wife who is chronically ill and so cannot always take care of the kids when i am away on business.  Babysitters are okay but they are inconsistent and often do not drive - I am looking for someone who can jump in on short notice or on a regular basis to help cover the kids when my wife ends up in bed for a couple of days with her MS.