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 The Suffering of
Larry W. Avent Jr
Medical Neglect/Late Diagnosis

Larry Avent Jr was born September 19, 2003. About 5 months before he was born the OBGYN doctor told us that something didn’t look right on the Ultrasound. He said that the fetus (baby’s’) bladder looked larger than it should be. He referred us to UNC Chapel Hill Hospital. I, Mother started to see the OBGYN Doctor there and had ultrasounds done about every two weeks. The UNC doctors told us that our baby would be born with Posterior Urethral Valves and his kidneys would be damaged. They also said that he would need to do dialysis and have a kidney transplant.
Larry Jr. stayed in the hospitals’ NICU for about a month ½, after he was born. He was fed by a tube; he had a lot of IV’s, and on the Oscillator machine. He had to have surgery (Ureterostomy) at 4 days old, due to the blocked urethras because he couldn’t release his urine. While he was in the NICU on the Oscillator machine, his head was laid on one side for a while and he had a sore on the right side of his head. We noticed it and told the Nurse and she informed the doctor. They ordered a cream to put on it. The sore went away but it left a bald spot on his head.
When Larry Jr was discharged from the hospital, he wasn’t on dialysis but the PD tube was placed, in case of an emergency to start dialysis. After two weeks of being at home, Larry had to go back because he was ill with an infection. His blood labs were off (potassium was high; kidney function was not too good). They started Peritoneal Dialysis on him around November 22, 2003. I, Mother had to learn to administer the dialysis, in order to take him home.
He went home around December 11, 2003. He did ok on the dialysis except for a couple of infections that were treated and he was released. Larry Jr was put on the Transplant list around August 2005.
The UNC Hospital called us with a cadaver kidney donor on March 27, 2006, to come and be evaluated for the kidney match. He was a match and received the kidney March 28, 2006. He did well with the transplant. He didn’t walk right after surgery. It took him a while to get his strength back in his legs but he still had a hop for a while. They had trouble getting him to take the medications. After awhile he started to take them better.
Larry Jr went home and did well except for taking his medication properly. He had labs drawn about three times a week and saw the UNC doctors regularly. He never missed an appointment. He started to become sickly around the first week of August. He complained of stomach pain, mouth pain and would vomit every so often. We took him to the emergency room, Halifax Regional for these symptoms but nothing they claimed showed. The local hospital called UNC every time we took him to the local hospital. They went by UNC Hospital orders. After a while, they noticed that his blood count/hemoglobin was LOW. They started treating him for anemia; giving him iron transfusions and also started the Pediatrician giving him an injection of Arenesp every two weeks. At his appointments, we kept telling them that something was wrong with him. We asked them were they missing something. They told us that the symptoms were normal.  At his last appointment before diagnosis, I called the Hospital begging them to check Larry Jr from head to toe. I, Mother told them that something was wrong with my baby.  He only received one due to the fact that his last appointment with his Pediatrician, he had a fever of 104. The pediatrician called the UNC doctors and informed them about the fever and the low blood count. They    had received the results back by then and told me they wanted him there at the Hospital right away. When we got there they told us that they got worried when I called and told them at his appointment that he needed to be checked from head to toe, so they gave him a special blood test. They said that he had EBV, which could turn into and act as a Lymphoma, because of taking the Anti-rejection drugs. We didn’t know it was serious but they told us that it was worrisome to them.
He had to do several test such as (bone marrow test, liver biopsy, MRI and so on). It took about two weeks to make a decision about what to give Larry Jr. He had to start Chemotherapy. They told us that he had Post transplant Lymphoproliperative Disorder caused by taking Prograf/anti-rejection drugs. He had lesions on his liver, spleen, lungs and lymph system. In this case he was Stage 3-4 and they were just diagnosing this because they were looking in the wrong direction. The Pediatric Nephrologist /kidney doctors told us that the Pediatric Onocologist would be taking care of him most of the time. He had to take Chemotherapy and they also had to reduce his medication (prograf). They told us about the Protocol, that they go by and asked us if we wanted to participate in the research. We told them if our son would have to go through any more pain, we didn’t want to, but if it was the same as going through the regular treatment, it was OK. They also told us that they didn’t think it was life threatening. They said that children usually do well with that Protocol. We accepted and signed the research paper. Dr. Blatt seemed like she cared more for the research than our sons’ treatment. We didn’t see her often. We saw Dr. Gold, Dr. Western, and the residents more. Well Larry Jr sat on the childrens' 5th floor at UNC for two weeks running fevers and vomiting. He got to the point he could hardly breathe before they moved him to the PICU.
*Larry Jrs' spleen had enlarged and was pressing on his lungs and Dr. Gold told us not to worry. They acted as if they had every thing under control. We had no idea our babyboy was dieing. He ended up losing his transplanted kidney, on Hemo dialysis (which he had never had before), Chemotherapy and much more. My son suffered before he died and we didn't have a warning.

 Hi, I´m brazilian...

I am a mother of a 2 year old son.  My husband and I try very hard to make a home for our family.  He lost his job the day after Christmas and has had trouble finding another one.  I have picked up some contract work, and am now working two contract jobs in addition to my full time job.  I was diagnosed 2 years go with multiple sclerosis, so the extra work is not an easy task.

Anyway, we got behind one month on our house payment and have been unable to catch up.  Our bank is demanding two months (the behind month plus this month) payment within 48 hours.  I don't have it and don't know what to do.

Hi! I am 46 years old . I have FSH Muscular Dystrophy.  I had to quit teaching ten years ago, and my life came to an abrupt stop! I was the mom who went everyhere with her kids, and usually several of their friends. I LOVED it!  My husband usually didn't participate, and besides, we didn't ever really get along that well.  It's not really that fun to DRAG someone along when they don't want to go! He always made sure if he was miserable, everybody was miserable!  Anyway, I got sick and could no longer drive, so I have been dependent on him for the last ten years.  He takes good physical care of me, but his looks and attitude let me know daily that he doesn't like having to do it!  I'm a very independent person, and I won't ask  for help unless I've tried every way possible to do it myself.  Sometimes I just go without!!  I basically haven't been out of the house in the last three yrs.  I got an electric wheelchair in Dec.,but I can't get out because I don't have a ramp. My husband promised to have one built, but its been 7 months. I need some help finding a way to pay for a ramp!  A grant, or loan; anything I could figure out to get one built!  Please help me! I need some fresh and sunshine. I am so bored, I'm going crazy.  If I could get outside, I could worrk in my flower beds!!  Any ideas wiil help!  Thanks for listening! 

I am a 31yr old recently divorced mom of 3 kids. i was in a marriage for 12 yrs., and because of his disposition as a husband my kids and i have been thrust into a sandstorm and i'm trying desperately to feel my way through. i don' know who to talk to or where to turn. my greatest fear is because of my financial unstableness my children and i will suffer for something that i virtually had no control over. i'm lost and dont know what to do. i look at my kids everyday and my heart breaks even more.i want to give my kids the world they deserve it,they're good kids and dont deserve to go through this storm.pls help......lost,confused, and anxious to start living.

Mother of 5 year old with Leukemia and Developmental delays. I am needing help with transportation costs and related expenses of getting him back and forth to do the doctor and therapy sessions.

Hi everyone,

Well, we are one of the millions of people about to have our home foreclosed on, in the continually ailing real estate market. We have been in our home for almost 25 years. Now we'll have to go back to the home where I grew up. My husband is a realtor, hasn't had a sale in about 8 months, I have a job, but it barely puts food on the table and gas in the car.

My husband's SUV was repossesed, and the only car we have (a '99 Ford Taurus) is on it's last legs.  Hubby has a heart condition and cannot do alot of jobs that he could have before.

We are months behind in many of our utility bills; and constantly have to work out "new payment" plans, or "put a monkey wrench" into the home foreclosure date; which to date is only 60 days away. We may be able to stall it some more, but inevitably I know we'll be forced to leave at some point before 2008 is over.

I see all the problems everyone here has in this website and feel so bad for everybody including myself, and wish I could help some of them or someone could help us, but I think if we can present our stories to the people with money, like Bill Gates and some others, this would be better than posting here on this site.

Or even if we could all forward all our notes to President Bush, perhaps he could find it in his ever so religious and giving heart to help all of us, just as he helps everyone over in Iraq and other parts of the world. Afterall, home is where the heart is, right? (or SHOULD be!)

 If Mr. Bush can finance BILLIONS of dollars for Iraq, what's a few thousand to each of us in our deperate heartwrenching situations?

Feel Free to email your replies/comments, or about $40,000. (that would get us out of the "hole" to me: michelleathompson@comcast.net

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Greetings all,

I am a 46 year old father of 2 and husband. I've found myself in a position that has left me unable to pay for my current needs. My wife is a cancer survior and I am a diabetic. She has been unable to work due to her condition and I am now the sole provider for the family. I am gainfully employed and have been able to manage things through the grace of our lord and saviour Jesus Christ until now. recently my wages have been garnished by the Virginia department of taxation for a unpaid taxes dating back to 1999. In that year I lost my job and had to cash out a 401k. I did realize the state did not get there due and they came back on me with a vengence. On 3/21/08 they took my entire bi-weekly earnings and have continued to levy my wasges to date, I have recieved approximately $830. Needless to say this has caused a tremendous burden on my family and I. God has provided our needs and I sure will contine. I would count any assistance as a blessing from him and would consider the person(s) donating it a blessing from him. This has also taught that I need to give of myself as much or whatever I can whenever I can.

Thank you for your kindness

Duane Allen