Hi, I have a friend who is a 26 year old woman. She just recently found out she was expecting twins.  The father of the children wants no part.  She works a full time job at a University in South Carolina. She was going to get a second job but her doctor advised her not to.  She does not make that much money already and is terrified at the thought of her new found resonsibilties.  I was hoping that maybe this could help.

Hi, my name is Kerry and I have 4 daughters.  They are 4, 6, 6 and 16.  About a year and a half ago, I left an abusive marrage to try to make a better life for me and my girls.  Things have been pretty rocky since then.  My ex is refusing to let me go and refuses to sign any of the paperwork.  He is trying to get custody of the girls and calls children's services on me all the time.  (The ladies from there are WONDERFUL!  I have nothing but good things to say about them, and they have always quickly closed the cases, but it is a horrible abuse of the system on his part and keeps them overworked and is a form of harrassment). 

 Anyway... I work two jobs.  One in the morning and one in the afternoon so that I can get my twins from school and take them to the daycare.  This also allows me to take them to the councelor's apointments and lets be be availible to go to the school when one of them is throwing a temper tantrum (hey.. Daddy throws things when he's mad, why can't I?).  Anyway, this means that I currently don't have health insurance.  I take a drug called effexor for Fibomyalgia (which is a disease that causes chronic pain).  It is $140/month at half the dose I'm supposed to be taking. 

I've never been in the position of not being able to give my children something for Chirstmas.  I don't have any family (my Mom died 2 years ago) and I dont' have any credit cards.  I do make fairly good money and their Dad is currently working and paying child support, but at the moment, I have to pay my lawyer, and the court appointed Gaurdian and every time he calls Children's Services or some other authority on me, it costs over $1,000 for me to clear my name and pay everyone to investigate something that didn't need to be investigated.  (sigh)   

I'd like to give them some art supplies this year.. we color and paint and craft all the time.  If anyone has some extra art supplies, material or yarn, would you consider donating them to us for their Christmas?  

Thanks for your kind thoughts,

Blessings,

Kerry 

Could some one direct me to find help?

Two weeks ago my husband was arrested for planning and meeting who he thought was a twelve year old little girl for sex, while having our three year old in the back seat. He now is in Jail and has no job.

He will have to stay there.

I will not allow him to come cack to our home afterwards but I am lost for the direction  I am heading for with these children.

After he was arrested and I learned they were taking his vehicle along with our whole computer and personal belongings in the vehicle, for good.....then I learned I am having twin boys.

So I now am dealing with a three year old that has oral difficulties/handicaps, my job and a very sick husband who is useless. I don't even have parents or inlaws that will help...well a father-in-law who is too busy and won't help.

Along with a pile of bills and the inevitable loss of my small home in Wayne NJ.

Could anyone tell me if there are any organizations that could help me and these three babies?

I am so scared and alone and am lost for answers.

I want to be happy for the twins who will be born soon but I am just so sad and can't be happy.

This story is easily verifyable...due to the horrible newspapers who have printed our address along with the name in the papers.

This is so unbarable and I plead with anyone who can direct me in the right direction. My twins are due in about three monthes and I am very scared of how I am going to be able to care for them.

I never knew I was married to a child molester....how could this happen to me after ten years of marriage.

Even a company who could help out with diapers or anything.

Thank You.

Kandice

One short year ago I never would have imagined I would be here asking strangers for help until the day my husband, 42, suffered a brain aneurysm while riding a motorcycle which caused an accident.  He broke every bone in the right side of his body, including fracturing his skull and breaking his neck.  His aneurysm was on the left side of his brain and he was not expected to live.  At the time I was two months pregnant (with twins!) and we were set to open a restaurant in two days, my husband's lifelong dream.

Since that day, my husband spent 7 months in the hospital, 4 in ICU.  I was told he would never live, never come out of his coma, never talk again, never walk... etc.  He is home with us now but has very little memory of his life before the accident and no short term memory.  He can only remember the last 15 minutes or so.  When he first came home from the hospital he was unable to get out of bed by himself, speak full sentences, do any personal grooming on his own, nothing.  Now he is walking (with a cane), feeds himself, talks regularly, etc.

We have two girls, 11 and 10 and through months of sleeping on waiting room couches and living in the hospital with my husband I was blessed enough to have a full term pregnancy and deliver two healthy babies, a boy and a girl.  I was lucky that my 80 year old mother was able to come for a few months and stay with our older children so I could concentrate on my husband's recovery.  I've tried to display strength so my children would be able to feel secure and hopefull during such a truly scary time.  I also have two step sons, one of whom just returned from being deployed in Iraq.

While my husband was in the hospital, we lost the restaurant and our home was forclosed on.  I was forced to move the week prior to delivering the twins.  I have since had to move again to better afford rent.  All of our savings were being used to open the restaurant, we have been left with nothing. 

Medical bills, doctor bills, babies, no savings.  It's all completely overwhelming.  My husband can not be left alone for 5 minutes, he has broken his hip once since being home, and that resulted in 3 months in a wheel chair.  Physically it is draining taking care of him and two newborns.  I haven't had more than 3 hours sleep a night in the past year. 

This past year has been a huge strain on our family but we have pulled together and have made it this far by the grace of God.  I now ask for grace from complete strangers to help my family out financially in any way possible.  I do not have enough money to pay rent, utilities, buy clothes, buy diapers for the babies or my husband (who is incontinent) and essentially take care of my family.  Any help at all would be most appreciated. 

Thank you so much for taking the time to read this.  I hope and pray you might be able to help me.  My husband and I are a young couple raising a set of fraternal twin girls.  They will turn 2 in September.  Back in March I got a job and my husband and I were finally able to build a home.  Unfortunately, I lost my job earlier this month (August) and two days later found out I am pregnant with our 3rd child.  If anyone can help with baby expenses, clothes, or even just with prayers, please do so.  We are living off of my husband's income only, which isn't much, and by the time we pay our bills we have $41 left over at the end of the month to buy food, gas, clothes, and other daily expenses.  We want to be able to provide a good home and provide for our children.  We believe that God doesn't give you anything you can't handle, but we also know He sometimes sends help in everyday people. 

I am a single divorced mother... glad to be divorced as we got away from an abusive situation. I get no child support as the ex has also been removed as legal father. I have twin toddlers and am pregnant with triplets(multiples run in the family!). I have been working and doing this all on my own for some time now -- but was fired from my job about a month ago due to missing work for the daycare shutting down for 2 days(inclement weather/broken water main) and then the boys got sick. Although I had doctor's notes and everything, my job said there was no way they could waive their policy....so I was fired...due to them giving me the warning notices for the absenses and me signing a form back when I was hired that I understood their zero tolerance policy on absenteeism, I am unable to file for unemployment.

 With my twin pregnancy...I wound up going on bedrest at 18 weeks and then having an emergency cesarean section at 29 weeks... the boys were only 2 and 3 pounds at birth! They fought for their lives in the NICU. I am now pregnant with triplets... only about 2 months along ... but I have no idea how I will be able to carry these babies and work to support all of us and take care of the two I have already. I have applied for food stamps and welfare -- but it isn't going to even cover our rent... the food stamps will at least keep food on the table. I have been crying out to God to send us help...because He is a very present help in times of trouble... I was taught this at a young age and I believe it. I believe He has lead me to this site... I believe perhaps someone out there will see this and will know they were meant to bless our struggling family.

 The dad of the triplets lives in Australia... we were planning to get married... but upon finding out about the pregnancy early on, he got angry and said that they are not his. There is no way they could be anyone else's but his. I will submit bloodwork for a paternity test as soon as they are born... though he was so awful to me, I don't think that he will even want any part in their lives. At any rate... I don't expect a dime from him or his family.

  My family have helped a little along the way -- with helping repair my old car when it broke down and with watching the boys in a couple emergency situations when I had to either work or lose my job. My mother has made it clear to me that she has already raised her kids and has no interest in helping to raise mine. I am grateful for what help they have offered... I am grateful for every little bit... but I spend hours praying these days... praying for a miracle.. I believe in miracles.

ETA: you may e-mail any advice or words of encouragement to rainbowbetta@gmail.com .. if you feel lead you could also send a paypal there... blessings to you.

hi.   my name is shelley and i have three kids and we are living with my mom in close quarters because i got evicted in feb and noone want to help me financially

Wow... where to start. My husband has been in construction his entire life. He has recently (September) closed down his construction business. He is now working in a sales position and not making any money. We have recently lost our house to forclosure and our vehicles to the bank. Our rent is due in 14 days and I am not sure where that is going to come from. We have never been in a situation like this and I just spend all day crying. I cant imagine the thought of having to live on the streets with my 2 year old twins. It just kills me inside to think about the life that they are living already. I would appreciate any help or advice!!!

Gosh, I don't even know where to start.  My husband and I make a seemingly moderate income.  By that I mean we make enough to get by without going into debt, but if we ever needed money for an emergency we wouldn't have it.  And right now I feel like we have come face to face with a big emergency.  God this is hard... I feel like I'm begging.  We live in a small 2-bedroom apartment, we've been trying to find a house, but I don't have the best credit and we've found it quite difficult to get a house sized loan on my husbands income alone.  After all is said and done (bills, groceries etc.) we only have about $100 dollars left at the end of the month.  We have been using that money to pay off my old debt so we can get a more sizeable loan.  Just last week I went to the doctor and found out I am pregnant, with twins.  While we do feel very blessed, we're also very overwhelmed by the current situation.  We have a son who will be 3 in August, and the babies are due in October.  We have two mid-sized cars, neither of which has enough room for three car seats, and with gas prices what they are we can't afford to drive both cars everywhere we go as a family.  But just like with the house we cannot get a vehicle loan on my husbands income alone.

I would never expect someone to buy me a house, or a new car for that matter.  But at this point I don't know where to turn or what to do. 

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