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Hi - I am a 34 yr old female and I just lost my husband of 12 years on Jan 19th suddenly - We took him to the Hospital on December 20th and they told us he had Bronchitis 4 weeks later I was signing documentation to turn off life support because my husband had suffered sever heart failure and organ damage due to 2 weeks of internal bleeding.  I have two children one is my late husbands biological son and they other is a stepchild that he always treated and raised as his own. 

I dont work, my husband was the sole supporter in the household - I am unable to work at this time as I suffer from narcolepsy which sometimes is very severe to the point I have 5-6 episodes per day and somedays none.  I dont qualify for disability as the SS administration doesnt feel it's debilitating enough.  I also suffer from vertigo and often fall down.  I feel like I took my husband for granted as I never realized until he was gone just how much he did for me and the kids,  I Loved him more than anything in the world because he always accepted me as I was and never tried to change me in anyway.  I will always love him! 

We have no medical insurance so I also cannot continually go to a doctor to address my illnesses like I would like to do and the local health department wont even address the narcolepsy or vertigo issues whatsoever.

My husband had a small life insurance policy but his mother is the named beneficiary and she has voice her opinion of what she thinks of me and she blames me for his death so I nor our son will ever see a dime of that.  I couldnt even afford funeral arrangements in fact his body is still being stored at $35.00 per day at the local crematory.  Everyone is angry with me because I decided not to have any services and they feel like I'm being disrespectful to his memory, but I cannot go through the extended grief of services nor can I afford anything as like I said I cant even afford to complete the funeral arrangements just yet.  My husband and I had NO friends only a few acquaintences that only came around when they needed something fixed by my husband.  Not one person has come to the house or called since his death.  We were each other's ONLY friends. so I also did not see the point in having services for that matter.  My children and I want to celebrate his life and the time we shared as a family in our own private way.

I cannot even file for disability death benefits as of yet as I need the final death certificate in order to do so which the medical examiner/pathologist told me will be 6-8 weeks so I'm stuck in limbo for almost 2 months not knowing where to turn.  Also I cannot get any state benefits until I prove he is no longer alive which also requires that same death certificate.

I was not prepared for this in anyway, nor did I ever think I would need to "start over" again.  I was happy and in a comfortable marriage which was very loving in everyway.  Now I feel like I've lost my husband, my love, my best friend, my partner, father of my children, my heart and I now have to worry I'm going to lose my home and anything else I may have since I have no income.  When he died we had $70.00 in the bank which is now gone.

I wish I could walk in to a prospective employer and give them all my circumstances and not have them just look at me like I'm crazy for even expecting they would possibly hire me with all my "baggage".  I feel so damaged and lost like I have noone and soon nowhere to turn to.  My phone rang about 50 times today from people all wanting money from me for the household bills, personal bills, and now over $100k in medical bills by the time I add it all together.  I just cant handle it, there has to be some hope.  My groceries will soon run out as well I most likely have enough for about another week and that's it.  My electric will be due in about a week, along w/ my car insurance which if I dont pay then they will suspend my license pending a $250.00 reinstatement fee along w/ proof of valid insurance to restore my priveleges.

Can anyone possibly help me in anyway, please!

I'm gladly able to work from home as then I can deal w/ the sudden need to sleep issues and the dizzy spells but I have yet to find any legitimate opportunities as everything seems like it's a scam and now my email in box is flooded w/ thousands of emails per day from all these companies that want me to send them money I dont have so they can screw me over.  I'm an excellent typist (over 100wpm) I know computers, software, etc.... extremely well but like I said I just havnt been able to get my foot in any doors as of yet as it's my conditions that hinder me and why should they hire someone w/ health issues that can only work a certain set hours over someone that is more flexible and is healthy.

Again Please Help me!

I am a widow with an 18 year old son who will be leaving next month for JOB CORP to study for his GED and the Welding program in upstate New York.  I recieve $626.00 amonth from SSI, $120.00 a month from Public Assistance and we get about $80.00 a month in Food Stamps.  My rent Is $1,175.00 a month and the Section 8 program sends my landlord $926.00 a month towards my rent. My monthly bills are more than I can afford to pay and I need help with paying my bills.  I am in the VESID program and hope to be able to go back to work in about a year.  In the meantime I can't afford to pay my bills.  I do not owe any money to any credit cards and such but just paying for rent, utilities, public transportation, food, and clothing is becoming impossible.  Please help me. 

Im a young widow who does not recieve survivor benefits. Their father worked on his fathers farm and they did not pay social security. He passed away and Im doing it all on my own. I recently lost my job and can not afford school supplies or clothes for the school year. Trying to get assistance and it is taking longer than anticipated. Thank you for your time and help.

Stephanie

I am in desperate need of money.  It is not a lot of money that I am asking for.  Only a little of your money so that I continue to live.  I can not pay my rent, utilities or for food.  I have been unable to find a job. I have worked almost all of my adult life.  Everything that I own is in storage and I can not pay the storage charges.  My mother at the age of 96 years passed away and I was the person that paid her caregivers, food, utilities, prescription co-payments and personal products.  When she died I had to sell her home because of a reverse mortgage that she had taken out.  The reverse mortgage contract did not allow anyone to get any money from the sale of her home.  There was interest on top of interest and lots of fees associated with the sale of her home.  After paying all of her expenses before and after her death I have no money left. Please help me by putting money in my Paypal account that I have set up under this email address.  jgpurr@aol.com

Setting up a paypal is free and sending money via paypal is free.  It is also a savings account that will earn interest for me.

Please help me!!!!  I am begging!!!!

I am a young widow with 3 kids 12,7 and 5. I would like to keep my house.  And continue going to school full time.

Hello:

My name is Geri and I am a 64 year old widow who is in desperate need of some temporary financial help.  Everything that I own is in storage in Southern California because I made a terrible mistake.  I moved to Brookings, Oregon thinking that it would be a great place to live and go back to work.  You are probably asking where I moved from and why I came to Brookings.  Well it is like this.  After my mother passed away at the age of 96 I decided to leave Southern California for a number of reasons.  One being that I didn't like the town she lived in and never had.  Second I had thought that I would move back to San Jose, CA.  I actually went to San Jose but unfortunately there were no jobs and housing was not within my budget. So I came to Brookings because a friend told me what a nice place it was to live and that there were lots of jobs.  It is a nice place to live but there are no jobs.  At the moment I need some money for rent fast.  I have tried everything I think of to raise the rent money.  Including friends and relatives.  They don't have it. If you can help me it would be greatly appreciated.  I am on food stamps, the state is paying my electric bill, the state is also paying $13.50 on my basic phone bill.  Any amount will be of great help.

Thank you for reading this and GOD bless you.

At 33 I never thought I'd loose the man of my dreams but my 2 children and I did last Oct.  My now 13 yr old son and soon to be 4 year old daughter are now fatherless and I am faced with having to take care of them on a veterinary technician salary.  I have lived in FL for 20 years and after everything thats happened this past year we all need a new start in life.  We would like to move to Colorado and I would like to go to school and start my own business which has always been my dream.  My son has some emotional and physical disabilities and require very costly medications.  I am making ends meet, just barely but I had to give up insurance and other things for myself to make sure they have insurance and pay for counseling.  I make just enough money to not qualify for any assistance, but its still not enough because of the debts he left behind that I am paying off.  I would love to be able to go back to school full time to get a business degree to someday be able to support my family on my own.  If any one can help me do that I would be eternally grateful. 

I am a 48 year old whose husband of 26 years passed away a year ago. He was waiting for his third kidney transplant. I have three wonderful sons...1 has graduated college and 2 are in college. Due to my husbands health issues, he didn't have much life insurance, etc. He worked every day as he could up until about 6 months before he passed away. We did dialysis at home. I have worked hard since he passed away as an Ebay seller and part time accounting for a builder. However, Ebay has bottomed out due to the economy and the builder I work for is having a hard time also...I have no money left...I have no heat. We are heating with electric heaters. I only have about 20 dollars left to my name and am posting items to Craigs List hard as I can. I had a mountain of medical bills that I am still trying to pay off but I cannot get a loan as our credit was ruined due to my husbands medical condition. I am a good person who has always helped others but right now I am so down and discouraged. I know that God will see us through this but I am scared, alone, broke and just not sure what to do. I have my resume out all over the place looking for a job but so far no bites. Please help us if you can.  My email address is screech6@nc.rr.com and I live in North Carolina.  If you want to help and need more information, please contact me. We have been through so much and are still trying to stay positive but I really need financial help. If you can do a loan, I will pay you back or if you feel like helping us out, please contact me. Thank you for reading my ad and keep us in your prayers please...thank you!!!

My husband was recently killed on the job working as a crane operator/ironwworker; leaving our 8 year old daughter and I feeling pretty alone.  To make matters worse, I became behind on our mortgage while awaiting our benefits to begin.  I was too proud to ask for help (I never have had to before) and now I am begging for someone to help refinance my home.  I am not asking for a handout, just a little nudge in the right direction.  Due to his death my credit score went from 717 to 530.  Our income is steady and good but credit score is killing me.  Please someone help so we don't lose our home now too.  Thank you!

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This is a letter I wrote to my actual father a couple of days ago:

Rich men... you know what the Lord has said about them. It is written in the Scriptures more than once. Do you know that it refers to rich not only in tangible assets, but also can mean "intellectually rich"... and the same "camel through a needle's eye" applies to both. Why is it easier for the poor of mind and poor of money to find the Kingdom of God? Because they have little or nothing to lose ... they have but pennies to lose and eternal life to gain, so it's no contest.
 
Every one's journey is tailor-made for them.... this is one reason why we cannot be in a position to judge a man while we are still on this earth. You might be correct in your judgement.... on the other hand, the Lord may simply be testing your heart to see where your loyalties lie.
 
And who is rich? Are either of us considered rich by our country's standard? Probably not. I'd be seen as low class and you as somewhere in the middle I'm sure.... but neither one of us is having problems putting food on the table. To the Scriptures...
 
Remember the widow that the Lord had prepared to feed His prophet Elijah? Was she rich? She was about to cook her last meal for her and her child and they were going to die. Most people would consider that pretty stinking poor!  Yet... what little she had... God required that. This poor woman... probably a young woman seeing how her son was so young .. probably younger than I am right now. The Lord came right up to her and heard her sob story... and His response? "Ok that's nice, but include me in that last meal because I'm hungry."  Would most people not be enraged at the audacity? Would most people not shake their fist and tell Elijah to get the hell out and leave us to die in peace?
 
But the widow didn't do that... something inside perhaps reassured her ... and she was thinking perhaps.... one more mouth to feed, what is the difference if we'll be dead soon anyway. So she went to her kitchen and poured out the last of her flour and the last drippings of oil... and she made a cake for the man of God and also one for her and her son. Ahhh! Here is where the story gets better -- the Lord blessed her and for the duration of the drought, each day she would have just enough food to get through that one day. What a cause for rejoicing! From one little step of faith -- she fed herself and her family throughout the disaster... meanwhile others were eating their last meal and dying... the Lord preserved her and her family for her faith.  But reading further... what's this?
 
Her son? Her only son? Her life's investment? Her retirement plan? Her son was her security in old age... and although she had been faithful and not with-held even her last meal .. this was her reward. God took everything. Most people perhaps would have shook their fist at the sky and buried the child ...the neighbors would be telling her to come back down to reality, to face facts that he is dead and gone... but even in death ... in all humility and brokenness, she ran to the man of God and begged for mercy ... the child was dead! Who in this day and age would still have any shred of hope? Yet there was something different about this woman ... the Lord took everything she had ... because He needed to see what she was made of ... he needed to refine the gold and get rid of the dross ..to be left with something pure, precious and blameless.  So He raised her son from the dead. Her faith kept them fed... her faith brought back the breath of life to a dead body ... this is living by faith and not by sight.

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