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Even the smallest ones might encourage someone else!

I am a mother who was raised Catholic and taught that it is a good thing to take babies from single parents and adopt them out - that children separated from family and raised by unrelated infertile people are far "better off" than they would be if raised in their own family if their mother is single at the time they are conceived. 

Infant Adoption: Known Consequences of Separating Mothers and Babies at Birth outlines what professionals have always known.

Separating mothers and newborns is especially traumatic - even puppies are protected in most states from being taken from their mothers until they are sufficiently mature.  But there is such a desire by religious people and others in power to punish single parents (derisively called "unwed mothers") that human babies receive no such protection.  Parents and grandparents are being lied to by "professionals" and their beloved babies taken from them. 

Today there is a large market for babies.   People are inclined to put wealth and their own interests first and "delay pregnancy" until they are unable to reproduce.  In United States (but not so much in some more ethical countries) it is legal to pay someone for human sperm, eggs, womb rental or even to contract to buy a baby produced via "traditional" surrogacy.  Adoption attorneys and businesses brag that they are using "open" adoption to "bring more birthmothers to adoption", ie, to separate real family members to get babies to "sell" to customers as "adoption services".  Some infant adoption businesses advertise "birthmother scholarships" to lure naive or pressured parents in.  These businesses know that most infant adoption customers won't be happy with a baby that's a "dud".   By getting the healthy intelligent babies of mothers who are not yet through college they can better satisfy their customers desires.

Because the United States does so little to protect it's citizens (and potential human beings), something called "reproductive tourism" has become common.  People from other countries visit the United States to buy a baby (in the form of eggs, sperm or newborn) or use a "surrogate". 

The adopted person (or "donated" or "sold" person) may be suffering, cut off from family. But when their family is referred to as merely "birth" family, "biological" family or "genetic" family no one - perhaps not even the adopted person - will be able to articulate that it is their actual family they have lost.

I am a mother who was raised Catholic and taught that it is a good thing for children to be separated from family and raised by unrelated infertile people.  The refusal in our society to support real motherhood and fatherhood - and the promotion of family separation ("adoption") - is now leading to the creation of even more "orphans".  I believe it is the duty of every citizen to protect the children of the future. 

Hello to all !

This is may be an odd pledge to some. It is pledged in love because I am positive a difference can be made for many.

Today I pledge a way to downsize in my own life to be able to help others.

And I pledge to help those in need help to find ways to make a difference in their lives including the difference between a "lifestyle" of need as opposed to a "once in a lifetime need." There is a difference.

When going through a difficult time we begin considering what to do first,well,it seems we all have a "greatest need."  

What is our greatest need?

That need reveals itself when we sit down to be honest with ourselves.

Sometimes that is for counseling to discover a plan,sometimes it's just to sit down and straight up prioritize your live.

Prioritizing your life can mean different things for different people.

Let me give you a simple example:
A bottle of Pepsi (or whatever)a 2 ltr can cost about $1.30.Yet a small bottle of Pepsi (20 oz.) can cost the same.

If this situation were prioritized in a life of someone having financial problems you might think they should buy the 2 ltr.

But the TRUTH is the $1.30 should NOT be spent. Not in a home where there are needs that are things like food,rent,energy needs,christmas gifts.

That's honest prioritizing.

The same goes for cigarettes.

They are so expensive ,cause cancer,etc. yet there was a time that I believed they HELPED me,believed I NEEDED them.

One day I saw the truth..I was lying to myself. They didn't help me,they hurt me and the children.

When I prioritized my life I stopped using excuses for smoking and simply STOPPED. And I never had a cigarette again because I don't smoke. That was in 1990.

More money was then there for the children ,bills, etc. (I smoked all the time)

At today's prices of cigarettes if a poor person put that money away and stopped smoking,they'd be prioritizing their life.

I said all that to say this - Prioritize.

Put your greatest need first. Be honest with yourself about how to save money.

If you or someone you know has a smoking,drug,gambling or alcohol problem help them understand how they are stealing from their children and even themselves. And they MUST get help!

If you are in the position to take action and get this person help do it today! It will be the best gift you could ever give anyone,including yourself.

Addicted is like a leech on you for life . It will not EVER help you and won't make you happy.

But you can by quitting what's wrong and doing what's right.

If this is not your first rodeo during the holidays then you already know where to find help and though there can be new help some years,the biggest help you will ever find is in prioritizing and stopping whatever causes the problem.

HONESTLY,Christmas is at the same time every year.

Is there no point that you understand you will always,as a parent need to LQQK AHEAD?

It is part of parenting. Take it seriously. You owe this much to yourself as well as those children you say you care about! You can get angry with me but please remember,Thanksgiving and Christmas come at the same time every year.You have to plan ahead from July to have anything left by Christmas.

This does NOT include disabled parents who well understand there is never enough!

Pass this message onto others.It can change their life if they listen.

Sincerely,Shezablonde

I'm mother of 1 month old and 2 years old baby

wow i was about to write then started reading how selfish people are well i have a daughter and just took custody of my two nieces 2 month old and 2 yrs i am 20 years old and i cant afford daycare to work because i will be working to pay for daycare i graduated high school and went to school to be an administrative assistant i was on maternity leave and as soon as i was going to go back i got a call to plz take custody of these two beutifull girls and couldnt turn them down knowin how texas and foster care is right now (overwhelming) so i took them in and my baby's father started gettin real sick with his kidneys and has been missing alot of work so we havent payed the house note 531.00 wich is due every 1st of the month so since i havent paid last months julys and now its the first i am behind two months i pray too god everythings gonna be ok but its hard well even if no one help me out at all on here feels good just relaxin writting to relieve a lil stress with all three girls asleep taking a nap thx and god bless have a great day

I need clothes for 2,a month old and 2 years old baby

my husband has been out of work for a month, but will start a new job on the 2nd of october, but in this past month we have gotten behind on our mortgage and car payments.  we also need money for fuel, groceries, and diapers.  we are a family of four needing a little help to make it through. we are waiting for our angel.

Shortly after my husband and I married in 2003, my husband lost his job of 7 years and everything has been a downward spiral ever since. My daughter was born shortly after we married and it changed our lives. We acquired a home and my husband thought it would be a good idea to invest his savings in investment properties. We obtained one rental property which we would up moving in after we lost our first house. My husband finally found a job in 2005 and we spent the extra playing catch up on bills we fell behind on not to mention  the fact that when he started working we had to spend an extra 400.00 / month for daycare which put a serious dent in our pocket. Needless to say, we wound up losing the other home as well and now we are in an apartment spending all of our income on trying to play catch up. It seems as if we are never going to catch up. We have robbed Peter to pay Paul for so long that now Paul is tapped out. I have a car in my mom's name that I am 3 months behind on and waiting to go outside one day and see it gone. We are behind one month on the rent and daycare is behind. Oh, I am sorry I forgot to mention the main contributor to our problems are payday loan. Neither one of us smoke, drink, or gamble. Although I have been spending an occassional $5 on mega million ticket in hopes that I might be lucky enough to really win millions and all of my problems will be solved. I need someone to take a chance and help me out or refer me to someone who can help me. I have a meeting with my credit union committee to try to convince them to give me and my huband a loan to help us get out of this mess we are in. I have started work with a debt consolidation agency in hopes that they will help us work out a budget that will get us out of this mess. Please help or pray for us that we won;t lose our car. Thank you for your help.

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1. Add a comment or a question here - on this page... or on any other page in this space.
   
2. Or, if you want to start a separate thread - make a new page.

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