I am posting this asking for any help or resources for my best friend. She is an amazing proud 24 year old single mother of a 3 year old daughter. She is divorced from the father of the daughter who was extremely abusive. He is an Iraq veteran and now a jobless drug addict. He pays no child support and is living in his parent’s basement. While visiting her dad the little girl was sexually abused (by her uncle) recently according to child protective services and due to her young age there is not solid enough evidence to charge anyone with a crime. Her mother who is a 2nd year full time college student has had to move back into a small room in her parent’s house with her daughter. She is at risk of having to drop out of school due to her overwhelming debt accrued during the divorce by her dead beat ex. She had to run up credit card bills to buy formula and diapers for the baby.

She is in a debt repayment program already and paying 250 dollars a month to pay off around 9,000 in credit card debt. She also has a 188 dollar a month car payment on a car that she needs to be able to get herself to school and her daughter to daycare. Her daughter is enrolled in a head start school program for at risk youth that allows mom to go to school during the day. She does not qualify for welfare because she would have to work full time. If she worked full time she would have to drop out of school and then start paying off yet another monthly bill of student loans that would be of no value as she does not have a degree yet. Her daughter would then also not qualify for daycare and she would end up having to pay full price for it.

Her parents are poor and unwilling to help and want her out of the house soon. She thought about selling her car so that she could save money but she would not be able to commute from where she is to school and daycare and the value of the car is only about half the total left to pay it off.

If she files for bankruptcy I think she will lose the car that she needs. If she works she would have to pay for daycare as family will not watch the child and the cost of daycare I think is too high. She is also very worried about the negative impact her parents are having on her mother/daughter relationship as anytime she tries to discipline her daughter her mother undermines her authority. Her mother also fills the grandchild up on sugar and lets the kid stay up until midnight. This makes it impossible for my friend to get her homework done as her mo0ther yells at her to take care of her daughter, but then gets mad when she makes her go to bed. My friend’s mother is an extremely conservative woman who feels that going to school is the wrong thing and that she should drop out of college because it is not the right thing for a woman to do. She is trying to sabotage her daughters fight to succeed as a single mother.

My friend has two cavities, and needs glasses and does not have any medical insurance. She found out that she may even be getting a bill for 1000 dollars for bringing her daughter to the emergency room in regards to the sexual molestation by the uncle.

My best friend has had a very hard life, father left mom at the age of 10 for another man, molested by people her whole childhood, and first raped at age 14 and repeatedly over her teen years. She is worried about her daughter falling into the same horrible problems. I am trying to find sources of help for her so that she can succeed in providing a better life for her daughter than she had. I myself am helping as much as I can, which is not much being a student myself. She is a very determined woman going to school majoring in sociology so that she can get a job making a difference in those less fortunate. It is extremely hard for her to ask for help, so I am for her.

Looking for a helping hand with:

1. Dental care

2. Glasses

3. Medical bill for child

4. Help paying off credit card debt

5. Money for rent or school

6. Daycare assistance so she can work more

At this point every little drop in the bucket can help; clothing is the one thing that they have plenty of as it seems to be the only easy help to get.

Just recently a rapist moved near my home, so I thought it would be a good idea for me to learn how to keep my children and myself safe and to share this information with others as well.

Find out if there is a sex offender living in your area

National Sex Offender Public Registry

No rape prevention strategy is foolproof. But you can avoid making yourself an easy victim by taking the following precautions.

Protect yourself against rape

"Every woman is a potential rape victim. Rapists tend to look for women who are more likely to be easy victims. But there are things women can do to protect themselves and reduce the risk." — Andrea Parrot, rape expert

The Oprah Winfrey Show How to Protect yourself

Every woman, no matter where you live or who you are, is at risk. Thousands of rapists remain free and continue to attack because their victims don't report the rapes. Just as author Andrea Parrot says, "Victims don't ever deserve the crimes committed against them." Victims are also instrumental in preventing numbers like these from growing.

Rape Facts

Rape and sexual assault are widespread problems. The use of psychoactive drugs makes a dangerous situation even more dangerous.

Protecting yourself from date rape

There are many misconceptions about sexual offenses, sexual offense victims, and sex offenders in our society. Much has been learned about these behaviors and populations in the past decade and this information is being used to develop more effective criminal justice interventions throughout the country. This document serves to inform citizens, policy makers, and practitioners about sex offenders and their victims, addressing the facts that underlie common assumptions both true and false in this rapidly evolving field.

Myths and facts about sex offenders

Rape is a violent crime, an invasion, a frightening experience. Rape affects all women, no matter what their age, race or economic status. All women are potential victims of sexual assault.

More Rape Prevention

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What to do if you have been Raped

Find a counseling Center in your area

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I have hung the picture of the rapist who moved in on my refrigerator, though my kids know to stay away from strangers I have made it clear they stay further away from this man. They aren't even allowed to go down his street.

Hi everyone, my name is Tiffany.  I am 27 and happily married. I was a virgin until I was raped at 19 and thats when all my problems started. after that within a year I had my first female surgery and learned that I had ovarian cancer, endometriosis, adnomiosis, cysts, and more.  So they did what they could that time.  I ended up having 6 more surgeries all trying to fix me.  I was basically living on muslce relaxers and pain pills all because I didn't want to lose the ability to have children.  I have loved and wanted children my entire life. AT 23 I was told there wasn't anything else they could do and that I couldn't have children and I had to have a hysterectomy. That day was the hardest thing for me. Luckily I met a man that accepts I can't have children and wants to adopt with me.  So here is my dilemna we want a child more than anything, but we can't afford the adoption fees.  I am writing on here in hopes that someone can make my dream finally happen.  I will give a child the most love it could ever want.  Thanks for listening.