36 years old.  Widowed with two sons and a daughter.  I'm a hard worker, very caring, giving person.  No matter how tough I may have it, if I can do for someone else in need I will. 

 I enjoy the outdoors, Autumn is my favorite time of the year.  When I've got time, I love to take long walks.  That's when I let the tears out...thinking about the walks I took with my husband.  I don't like to cry in front of the kids.

I enjoy poetry, all types of books, (historical romance my favorite) I like to bake from scratch (plus it's cheaper)

If I was rich, I'd probably have tons of pets.  Cats, Dogs, Horses, etc...

I love all kinds of music ~ varies with my mood.  Barry Manilow to Kenny Rodgers, to Janis Joplin and Motley Crue.

I'm an old fashioned type of person.  I'd take an old farmhouse before I'd have something new built.  I like candles at Christmas ~ not bright flashly lights. Simplicity and tradition. Keep it real and keep it family.

I was widowed 4 years ago by homicide ~ and 18 months later I almost buried my son.  He was badly burned by a gas can explosion and spent almost 2 months in the hospital undergoing 4 surgeries. Since those 2 tragedies, we lived with my parents ~ their house was hit by lightning, we moved to an area I thought better for the kids and ended up homeless for awhile. That feeling....indescribeable.

 My kids are now 15, 13 and 11 and every week is filled with mental health, anger management, appointments of every kind.   My current income is $900 in survivor benefits with over half of that going on rent for a very small 2 bedroom apartment. The boys share a room, daughter has the other, I sleep on the couch which is kinda livingroom, kitchen all in one. 

I was approved for $179 a month in food stamps, but denied for any financial help. I'm grateful for the help with food and shop wisely ~ but it's just not enough to feed 3 active kids. I have half of the "agencies" I work with telling me I need to go to work.  (I know this and WANT to go to work.  I use to hold 2 jobs and worked up to 90 hours a week)  The other half is telling me ~ how are you going to hold a job when every single day there are problems with the kids and you're running 5-7 times a week for appointments? The biggest concern right now is the behavior of 2 of the children.  It's too much for my oldest to handle ~ and have lost "placement" with a couple of babysitters.  One Psychiatrist told me I need to keep everything as routine as possible right now for the "mental well being" of my son and going to work would not be a good idea. I'm trying everything available to me that I believe may help. We've already been through placements, hospitals, medications, etc etc.

With school just starting up again, finances are in the negative zone.  Clothes, supplies, school pictures are coming up...activities that I'd like to see the kids be able to do this year.  My oldest will be 16 in a couple weeks and right now I don't have "space" to budget his driving permit test in. I scape and wrap coins to stay on top of paying auto insurance, I can only imagine what the cost will be adding a 16 year old male driver.  Guess it's a "Mom" thing?....but to me 16th birthday is a big deal and I'm not able to get him anything. 

 I'm always finding ways to cut costs, ie: no television, the very basic phone service (which I've even considered shutting off ~ but need it with 3 kids in the house) I take it a day at a time, but can't help but worry about the holidays coming up.  My kids have always put a smile on their faces with huge, "thank you Mom" and hugs...but I know they're hurting and worried too.  The hardest thing I've done in the past year was spend the money I'd been trying to save towards a headstone for my husband's grave. My youngest son took that very hard.  It's been 4 years, we just had a man convicted in the crime a few months ago and it opened up a whole bunch of feelings again.

People ask me on a daily basis, "how do you do it?"  All I can say is, it's the love for my children that get me out of bed each morning.  Yes, I'm tired, I'm sad, frustrated, scared, worried.  I can fall asleep standing up or lay awake for the whole night, too much on my mind to sleep. I really don't know what else to say except...if anyone has anything they'd like to ask me ~ you can write and I'll answer your questions. 

I am so tired of being so tight on money.  We go into debt about 100 dollars a month.  We just want a couple extra dollars at the end of the month to go somewhere as a family... even McDonalds.   My husband is in the Air Force so we don't make that much.

I have two beautiful kids.  My son who is 4 and my other son who is 3 months old.

When i was growing up we didn't have much money.  I don't know how my mom did it.  She always made me feel like we had plenty.  She didn't want me to worry.  Now, having a family of my own, i see how hard it is.  I am worried i am making my son worry about adult problems (our money problems) we try not to, but sometimes we find ourselves talking about money in front of our four year old.  I really just want him to know we are fine.

Thank you for taking your time to read this, GOD bless everyone

Hi!  My name is Jennifer!  I'm currently working full time as a secretary, my husband works here too!  We were both out of work for a while due to our sons (who was born premature) death.  It has been a year and we are still struggling so bad.  He has a daughter from a previous marriage who is turning 14 on July 1st.  We try so hard to do the best we can but we got so behind when we were out of work that it's just piling up and late payments and power cutoffs, it's too much to handle.  My credit is now ruined and the day we got back from the hospital the landlord was waiting in the driveway, and went up $100 dollars on the rent.  Not asking for money, just support.  I don't tell them how bad it is.  I keep it bottled up, and it's driving me crazy!  Thanks for listening

I was widowed 4 years ago by homicide ~ and 18 months later I almost buried my son.  He was badly burned by a gas can explosion and spent almost 2 months in the hospital undergoing 4 surgeries. Since those 2 tragedies, we lived with my parents ~ their house was hit by lightning, we moved to an area I thought better for the kids and ended up homeless for awhile. That feeling....indescribeable.

 My kids are now 15, 13 and 11 and every week is filled with mental health, anger management, appointments of every kind.   My current income is $900 in survivor benefits with over half of that going on rent for a very small 2 bedroom apartment. The boys share a room, daughter has the other, I sleep on the couch which is kinda livingroom, kitchen all in one. 

I was approved for $179 a month in food stamps, but denied for any financial help. I'm grateful for the help with food and shop wisely ~ but it's just not enough to feed 3 active kids. I have half of the "agencies" I work with telling me I need to go to work.  (I know this and WANT to go to work.  I use to hold 2 jobs and worked up to 90 hours a week)  The other half is telling me ~ how are you going to hold a job when every single day there are problems with the kids and you're running 5-7 times a week for appointments? The biggest concern right now is the behavior of 2 of the children.  It's too much for my oldest to handle ~ and have lost "placement" with a couple of babysitters.  One Psychiatrist told me I need to keep everything as routine as possible right now for the "mental well being" of my son and going to work would not be a good idea. I'm trying everything available to me that I believe may help. We've already been through placements, hospitals, medications, etc etc.

With school just starting up again, finances are in the negative zone.  Clothes, supplies, school pictures are coming up...activities that I'd like to see the kids be able to do this year.  My oldest will be 16 in a couple weeks and right now I don't have "space" to budget his driving permit test in. I scape and wrap coins to stay on top of paying auto insurance, I can only imagine what the cost will be adding a 16 year old male driver.  Guess it's a "Mom" thing?....but to me 16th birthday is a big deal and I'm not able to get him anything. 

 I'm always finding ways to cut costs, ie: no television, the very basic phone service (which I've even considered shutting off ~ but need it with 3 kids in the house) I take it a day at a time, but can't help but worry about the holidays coming up.  My kids have always put a smile on their faces with huge, "thank you Mom" and hugs...but I know they're hurting and worried too.  The hardest thing I've done in the past year was spend the money I'd been trying to save towards a headstone for my husband's grave. My youngest son took that very hard.  It's been 4 years, we just had a man convicted in the crime a few months ago and it opened up a whole bunch of feelings again.

People ask me on a daily basis, "how do you do it?"  All I can say is, it's the love for my children that get me out of bed each morning.  Yes, I'm tired, I'm sad, frustrated, scared, worried.  I can fall asleep standing up or lay awake for the whole night, too much on my mind to sleep. I really don't know what else to say except...if anyone has anything they'd like to ask me ~ you can write and I'll answer your questions. 

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